Forgiving

Posted 3/14/2018

I know I should forgive; but that doesn’t make forgiveness easy. Sometimes forgiveness seems impossible. Sometimes the hurt goes so deep into my soul that forgiveness seems to be beyond what I am able to do. At such times the best thing I can do is to share my hurt with God. It also helps to share my hurt with another who is trained in helping people heal — someone trained as a pastor, a counselor, or perhaps even as a mediator. 

 

Yet the truth is there are other times when it is not so much the hurt goes so deep into my soul that forgiveness seems beyond me but that I simply don’t want to forgive. At such times it is helpful to look in my heart to see why it is I don’t want to forgive. What “benefit” do I gain by not forgiving? Am I simply enjoying being the victim too much to forgive? Do I need to get a wider, deeper perspective on the situation — a God’s-view perspective? 

 

In the end, Jesus reminds us that we are able to forgive only because God has forgiven us. It is only as we come to know ourselves as those who both are in need of forgiveness and as those who have been forgiven that we become free to forgive.